Intentional Focus Time

Overview

During the holidays, professional and personal commitments collide as friendsgivings, work parties, and family traditions compete for your time. In a matter of a few days, your weeknights and weekends get maxed out. Then comes the holiday stress. Stress with family, gifts, time, and expectations.

Let’s make sure this holiday season that you and your partner are not getting filled up and frazzled, but filled up and fulfilled.

Issue(s)

Holiday events with family and friends don’t always let you and your partner focus on each other.

Ask yourself, do you and your partner:

• feel connected at these holiday events?

• grow together during these times?

• feel fulfilled after the holidays?

• have energy after you show up for these events?

• ever want to do something new?

👉️ Tip: instead of asking yourself these, make it a discussion with your partner to gain their perspective. What gives you energy may drain them (or vice versa).

Analysis:

The holidays are meant to be joyful, special, and full of warm-fuzzies. You have control over how you structure your holiday plans. You can create connection and rejuvenation time with your partner.

Solution:

Just as you might block off “focus time” on your work calendar or phone, schedule that focus time with your partner throughout the next two months. Now is the time to think ahead and plan because the frazzled flurry of to-dos and events hasn’t yet arrived. (But it’s flying in hot soon!)

Action:

Don’t let your holiday time solely be determined by other people. What do you want it to be? Ask your partner:

• When can we schedule our own “holiday” party to celebrate and enjoy the thankfulness we have for each other?

• What could we do this year to dedicate time and show our gratitude for each other?

• What boundaries can we put in place to ensure that we protect our time together this season?

Conclusion:

Holidays are meant to be an enjoyable break from work. They are meant to celebrate. That time can quickly become dominated by obligations, traditions, and other requests. What’s most important to you? Make time for that just as if it were your calendar at work.

💬 Talk with your partner about what’s important this season
📆 Pick a date and time to spend together
❌ Say no to anything trying to invade that time
🔥 Enjoy focused time with your partner

Until next week,

Michelle @ Partnership Pulse

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