Intentional 1 Page Goal Setting

Overview

You don’t always need a five-day retreat with a facilitator to enlighten you about goal setting. Sometimes, you need intentional thought and a piece of paper you would otherwise recycle.

In this newsletter, I share my and my partner’s simple goal-setting practice we do each year.

It’s simple, easy, and attainable.

(No really.)

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Issue(s)

Without written benchmarks for what you want to achieve, you and your partner may fail to:

• obtain your goals

• remember your dreams

• celebrate your accomplishments

You lose sight of your relationship, get caught in the grind, and stay status quo.

Analysis:

Studies have shown that writing down your goal increases your chances of obtaining it by 33-42%.

When you write down the goal, have accountability (like a partner), and break it into actionable pieces (SMART goal), the likelihood of achievement increases.

Tip 👉️ : Even though listing SMART goals will help you attack a BIG goal, my relationship goals list either a bite-size goal, the end dream, or an experience we want to have.

What happens when you achieve your goal?

• Meeting goals at work usually translates to money or a promotion.

• Meeting goals at home translates into joy, fulfillment, and deeper connection. AKA: happiness.

Solution:

Do some simple goal-setting with your partner. This can be completed in a day or less. And it’s not a stone tablet; you can add or adjust it as needed.

All you need is a piece of paper, a pen, and some intentional time.

Action:

This is the exact process I follow each NYE to write out my and my partner's goals. You can do this for your relationship at any time of year.

1. Choose a piece of paper that has a little meaning to it.

   • a love note

   • a random picture you like

   • a child’s fingerpaint drawing

2. Write a title for your goals on the side with the most white space.

   • I write: “Allen Family Goals [year]”

3. Divide the goal sheet into these categories.

   • Q1 - Jan, Feb, Mar

   • Q2 - Apr, May, June

   • Q3 - July, Aug, Sept

   • Q4 - Oct, Nov, Dec

   • Personal Goals

   • Future Goals

   • Trips [or another specific category you want to keep in mind]

4. Write out the specific goals (aka: things/events) you want to do in the category (and/or timeframe).

   Answer questions like:

   • What activity would bring me joy?

   • What events align with our values?

   • How can we increase the time we spend together?

5. Hang your goal sheet where each of you can see it.

6. Review it each quarter…TOGETHER.

   • Check off the things you accomplish ✅ 

   • Modify the items that could still be obtained this year ✏️ 

   • Carry over the goals that can be accomplished in the future ➡️ 

Conclusion:

You can’t always document the hugs and kindnesses you give your partner, but you can write out your hopes, goals, and dreams.

This written goal sheet is an artifact - a tangible reminder - of your alignment with your partner. Write it - Review it - Achieve it.

Thrive together,

Michelle

P.S. You can use this process with your kids! We do this process annually by ourselves and then share the goal sheet with our 5-year-old. She adds goals to the list throughout the year because she has recognized that writing them down increases means they’ll happen.

P.P.S. In the mid-month pulse check, I ask you and your partner insightful questions to enhance alignment and help you plan your goals for the next five months.

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